Observes Michael Benjamin Some men like to believe that they are so indispensable that they could do just about anything that pleases them in their marital union and get away with it. They behave as though they are their women’s ‘Godsends’ and their services are so unique and rare it’s almost to the point of indispensability. They are so conceited that they actually believe that their absence, whether through death or otherwise, will so disturb life’s equilibrium as to leave a chasm that would be impossible to fill.These men are domineering, static in their views,Jerseys NFL Wholesale, extremely dogmatic and impatient with any lesser being that dares to challenge their perspectives. As someone succinctly said, should persons of such ilk die and by some freak of luck were to return and observe life, they would be tremendously shocked to see that their absence has not even shifted life’s arc one little bit. The job they thought that only they could have done has been taken over by someone else and that person may be even more competent, intuitive and progressive than they were. The job you thought that only you could have done has been completed and your replacement has moved on to far more innovative stuff.By extension, some men treat their wives as though they are their personal property and these wives must just ‘love and obey’ without a murmur. Men of this ilk like to think that they are their wife’s only hope and salvation; that without them their better halves are hopeless. They take their unions for granted. Some rule with iron fists, assured that fear is the key to keep their women in check. These are the men that are unceremoniously visited by ‘Joe Grinds.’‘Joe Grinds’ is the fictitious name given to the guy that lurks around awaiting the right opportunity to intrude into a relationship, disturbing the equilibrium. He is the consummate ‘sweet man’ that plans his move to coincide with the absence of the husband. He is consoling and understanding with just the right words to soothe any situation. Many a faithful women, fed up with their husband’s infidelity and dogmatic disposition, eventually become vulnerable and fall prey to his ploys, becoming so entranced that they end up breaking their marriage vows.The Bajans call it ‘horn; Jamaicans call it ‘bun;’ Antiguans refer to it as ‘knuckle’ and the Guyanese call it ‘blow’. Whichever you choose, it means the same thing — infidelity of the worst order.Of all the countries that I have traveled and of all the cultures I have examined, Guyanese men have proven to be ‘love strong.’ Simply put, they would give their wives anything their little hearts desire. All they expect in return is fidelity and that is irrespective of their extra curricular activity.The cultures of North America and Europe are vastly different where the females are embedded into the mainstream and are just as industrious as their male counterparts. So it would not be surprising in those societies that a man and his wife may cross paths at their gate on their way to and from work for lengthy periods. Some Caribbean families attempt to retain their cultures and values and dedicate at least one day,Ben Gedeon Jersey, most likely Sundays, to sit together to a meal and family discussions. Anyway that is a little removed from the discussion.Guyanese men adore their wives and are prepared to bear up with nagging,Cheap Basketball Jerseys, maybe a little laziness or even some amount of indiscipline in the kitchen but don’t you dare give a Guyanese man ‘blow.’ This could mean curtains for you.‘Blow’ is what Joe Grinds dishes out. He is skilled at it. Most times ‘Joe Grinds’ is unemployed but dresses in the latest fashions, sports the most exotic jewelry and always seem to have some harebrained schemes that promises lucrative rewards. He has become so skilled in the art of promiscuity that he has his lines down to a ‘T.’One of the fundamental arguments in the functions and roles within the nuclear family structure is the division of labour theory that once confined women to the kitchen and bedroom, performing menial tasks. Things have undergone drastic changes and the women are now worming their way into the mainstream. Some men see this as a threat to their authority and are adamant that a return to the old status quo is the only way that social order would prevail. A small minority have welcomed these changes, since it stabilizes the home environment when both parties are ‘bringing home the bacon.’The Muslims have established a culture that impinges on societal norms that a man is entitled to just one wife. Muslims have been known to possess several wives and my understanding is that there must be equity of treatment. Many men have spoken of the challenges of having just one wife much less several.I spoke with seve